Today I was reminded that I bring a uniqueness to every interaction I have with someone else. Especially in a counseling and/or coaching session. As a professional coach, it is the unwritten maxim that lifelong learning is a non-negotiable element in our trade. That’s a great maxim to guide you in this craft. It can also blind-side you to your unique set of knowledge, skills, and other abilities that you bring to it.
This came out forcefully a few days back. It happened during a Learning & Development session for a bunch of us coaches working to acquire credentials in our craft. We were listening in on a recording of a coach-coachee session. I learned much through this session. I learned what I should do the next time when I’m in a coaching session. I also learned what I should NOT do as well.
Then today (Friday, May 8th, 2020), I came across “The Inspiration Code-How the Best Leaders Energize People Every Day”, by Kristi Hedges (Copyright © 2017 AMACOM, a division of American Management Association).
I hadn’t finished the first page when I realized that I had some pretty unique strengths that I bring to a counselling or coaching session.
This post is to remind me of these strengths.
- I stay in the present with the Client and track with them relentlessly.
- I actively listen to them, not just to what they are saying, but also to what is not being said.
- I continuously seek to clarify what the Client perceives as the main issue.
- I do this by expressing myself clearly with open-ended questions for the Client.
- I keep my positivity out there and always hear for latent strengths the Client is speaking or pointing to, and I seek to help them amplify these strengths.
- I’m always listening to their way of thinking, and how that is helping them and then to raise these thoughts of theirs into their consciousness so as to reinforce them.
- I am cheerful and positive in sessions, yet, I am able to emphatize where needed to help draw them out more.
- I seek to match them, and pace them in their speed of speech, and sometimes I help them slow down so that they have an opportunity to hear their own thoughts.
- I work with bouts of Silence. Silence is a tremendous opportunity for the Client to reflect in session. Great change can happen during these moments.
- I try to affirm my Clients every time I hear an achievement in their stories.
- I’m not afraid to ask my Clients permission to share my own stories which resonate with theirs and can amplify theirs.
- I’m a mind detective sometimes. Clients are glad when I am able to help them connect the dots. When I help them see the dots in the first place.